Well, meet Stogey, my dream man...er, dog. I recently read the book The Five Love Languages to find out why my husband and I are so different. The answer is that I need/give/want verbal praise (ie - you are pretty, etc...) and my husband needs/gives/wants acts of service ("When you cut the lawn, baby, I'm turned on!") which led me to delve into my undying love for my dog Stogey (see cute picture above). My dog (and maybe your pet, too) gives and likes to receive ALL FIVE love languages.
Let me break it down...
1. Verbal praise - "You are a good boy, Stogey!" and he wags his tail. I put on socks and he thinks he might get a walk, so he barks a high pitched bark and runs in circles.
2. Quality time - where I am, the dog will follow. He is always with me, always wants to be near me. When I am up late (like now) he will stand in the kitchen, stare at me and whine while wagging his tail as if to say, "Time for bed, my love."
3. Acts of Service - I take Stogey in the car almost every morning. He jealously barks at other dogs and hangs his head out the window. At twelve, he still loves a long walk. (I'm always embarrassed that when I DO attempt to run, he never pants and looks like he is only walking a little quickly.) He is still on his neverending quest to bring me the gift of a squirrel or one of our pet rats. He brings me toys to throw and never says no whenever I ask him to go anywhere with me.
4. Gifts - If I bring him a new snack or chew toy, he gets crazy excited. (He gets excited even if I launder his current toys and let him get them warm out of the dryer himself.) He gives me the gift of never talking back to me, never being mad at me, and never fighting with me.
5 Physical Touch - petting him makes him close his eyes and moan. We sleep with some part of us connected/touching all night long.
How does this boil down and relate to writing? I guess we are all looking for the perfect man in our romance novels, but are we really just modeling perfection after woman's best friend? I wonder what Stogey and I will say to each other some day in heaven (alas, he is twelve) and it might be nothing, because we both know...we just know.
Tell me about your best friend and what love languages they speak to you.
Time to write about Mr. Right...
(Ps - I DO love my husband!! haha)
The quill part is quick - I just found out my first SHORT story will be published - I'm crazy excited and will post a link to the story as soon as it's available. The title is "Why Not Me?"
The pill portion of the blog related to a wonderful website called Needy Meds:
This is a great website for people who need help paying for their prescriptions - check it out!
The following article is reprinted with permission from Dr. Sagall...
Pharmaceutical Companies Helping Patients Get Their Medicines
By Richard J. Sagall, M.D.
It's a choice no one should have to make - pay rent and buy food or get prescriptions filled. Yet all too often it's a choice Americans, particularly older Americans, have to make.
Over 40 million Americans have no health insurance, and millions more have limited coverage. Many Americans just can't afford healthcare, and, if they can, they don't have the money to buy their medicines.
Patient Assistance Programs
There is help available for many people who can't afford their medicines. These programs, frequently called patient assistance programs (PAPs), are designed to help those in need obtain their medicines at no cost or very low cost.
Many, but not all, pharmaceutical companies have PAPs. The manufacturers who have programs do so for various reasons. Some believe that they have a corporate social obligation to help those who can't afford their products. Others believe it's a good marketing tool. As one PAP director once told me, many people who can't afford their medicines now will go on to obtain some type of coverage. And when they do get this coverage, they will continue using the medication provided by the PAP.
In 2005, PAPs helped over 7 million people. The programs filled over 36 million prescriptions with a total wholesale value of over $5 billion.
The Basics of the Programs
All PAPs are designed to help those in need obtain their medicines. Since each pharmaceutical company establishes its own rules and guidelines, all are different. All have income guidelines, but they vary considerably. Each company selects which drugs are available on their programs and how long a person can receive assistance.
How PAPs Work
Although no two programs are exactly the same, most require that the applicant complete an application form. The amount of information required varies. Some programs require detailed medical and financial information, others very little. All require a doctor's signature. Certain programs require the doctor complete a portion of the form while others only need a signed prescription.
Most send the medicines to the doctor's office for distribution to the patients, while others send the medicine to a pharmacy. A few send a certificate to the patient gives to give the pharmacist.
Some patients need drugs for a long time. Most, but not all, programs that cover medicines used to treat chronic diseases offer refills.
What Medicines are Covered
The pharmaceutical companies decide if they will have a PAP and, if they do, which of their medicines will be available through the program. Some include many or all of the medicines they manufacture while others include only a few. The reasons for these decisions are not something they reveal.
There are a few programs that sell generic medications at a fixed price - currently $18 for a three-month supply and $30 for a six-month supply. These programs are adding more drugs all the time.
Sometimes a medicine or a certain dosage of that medicine will be on a program, then off, and then back on again. Or one dose of the medicine will be on the program but a different dose won't be.
How to Learn about PAPs
Your doctor is not the best source of information on PAPs. Surprisingly, many doctors don't even know PAPs exist. The same applies for pharmacists. Many social workers know about the programs. Books in the library or bookstore on PAPs are probably outdated before they are printed.
The best place to learn about PAPs is the Internet. There are a number of sites that have information on these programs. Many pharmaceutical companies have information on their patient assistant programs on their websites. Unfortunately, it's often hard to find the page that describes their PAP.
Types of Websites
There are two types of websites with information on patient assistance programs. Three sites list information on patient assistance programs - NeedyMeds (www.needymeds.com), RxAssist (www.rxassist.org), and HelpingPatients.org (www.helpingpatients.org). There is no charge to use the information. These sites don't have a program of their own nor do they help people get their medicines.
NeedyMeds is a non-profit funded by donations, sales of software for managing PAPs, and other sources. The Pharmaceutical Research and Manufacturers of America (PhRMA), an association and lobbying group whose members include many of the larger pharmaceutical manufacturers, runs HelpingPatients.org, which has information on PhRMA members programs.
Then there are a number of sites that charge people to learn about patient assistance programs and complete the application forms. The charges vary, as does the quality of their services. Some offer a money-back guarantee if they can't get your medicines.
How to Use NeedyMeds
Most PAP sites contain similar information. They differ in how they organize the material, the ease in accessing the information, and the timeliness of their data.
To use the NeedyMeds site you begin with the name of your medicine. There are two ways you can check to see if your medicines are available in a patient assistance program. One is to click on the drug list. This brings up an alphabetical list of all the drugs currently on PAPs. Find the medicine you take and clink on its name. This will bring up the program page.
On the program page, you will learn about the specifics of the PAP - the qualification guidelines, the application process, the information you need to supply, what your doctor must complete, etc. In addition, you will learn if there's a downloadable application on the website or if you must get an application from the company. (Some companies accept copies of their application form while others require you complete an original.)
If you know the medicine's manufacturer, you can click on the programs list. From there, you can click on the program you want to learn more about. That should bring up the information you need.
Once you get the information you need, it's up to you to complete the applications, get the necessary signatures, and send the form to the program.
A Few Tips
The most common problem patients encounter when completing the application forms is lack of physician cooperation. Over and over I hear from people whose physicians just won't complete the forms - or charge to do it. I am asked what they should do.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Make sure you have completed everything on the form that you can. Not only should you complete the applicant's section, but anything else you can fill in. This may include the physician's name and address, phone number, etc.
2. Bring all the information your doctor may need. For example, some programs require proof of income. If so, attach whatever documents are required.
3. Bring an addressed envelope with the appropriate postage.
4. Don't expect your doctor to complete the form immediately. A busy doctor may not have time to read the form while you are in the office.
5. If you encounter resistance, tell your doctor that without his/her help, you won't be able to obtain the medicines he/she is prescribing. Be blunt.
6. If all else fails, you may need to find a physician more sympathetic to your plight and willing to help you.
What if I Don't Have a Computer
Many people without a computer can still use the information available on these websites. Nearly everyone knows someone with a computer - a family member, a neighbor, or a friend. Most public libraries have computers for public use and people who can help those not familiar with their use.
Patient assistance programs may not be the best solution to the problem of inability to pay for medication, but they can help many people. Millions of people use PAPs to get the medicines they need but can¹t afford. If you can't afford your medicines, a patient assistance program may be able to help you.
Richard J. Sagall, M.D., is a board certified family physician. He cofounded NeedyMeds and continues to run the site. He can be reached via the website, www.needymeds.com. He lives in Gloucester, MA.
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My pool keepeth me from writing. Damn the eighty degree weather that put me in the pool on three separate occations the other day! I should be writing! The ideas that ebb and flow in the mind of a writer are relentless. Ahh, but the pool calls to me. I'll write again when the sun sets...
Or now, while it rains and the house is quiet. As Stephen Markley said one of his teacher's said (or something) "Apply ass to chair."